Aurelia Ignatio

I'd love to be in the mood for you

Why We Sometimes Lose a Sense of Closeness—and How to Regain It

"A warm-hearted, expert look at the great silence in bed - and an invitation to experience love, sex and tenderness in a new way beyond rigid norms"

What if you love your partner - but hardly feel like it anymore? When closeness is nice, but sex has become rare. When fantasies arise that you don't want to confide in anyone. Not even your partner. And when you secretly wonder whether something is wrong with you or your love..

Desire is more than just sex. It’s about closeness, vitality, and connection—with yourself and with your partner. But in everyday life, amid stress, expectations, and routines, it often fades into the background.

Many couples are familiar with the great silence: one partner wants it, the other doesn’t. Or neither does anymore.

Aurelia Ignation talks about all the things we hardly ever discuss: waning desire, differing needs, upbringing, shame, asexuality, fantasies, pain, and the search for new intimacy.

Honestly, empathetically, and without taboos, she shows how we can better understand what’s happening within us and between us—and how closeness can be rekindled without pressure, without guilt, and without the expectation of having to conform to a supposed ideal.

This book invites you to rediscover your own body, your own desires, and your own boundaries. It explains why intimacy changes over the course of a relationship, why stress, daily life, life stages, and past experiences play a role—and how couples can reconnect through dialogue.

For everyone who loves. And feels that there could be more.